Built and Forged

We made a lot of friends through the years. Some came and went, others stayed. Some became enemies, others became strangers but with mutual feelings. The ones who stayed became for keeps and if we are not friends with them, we don’t know what kinds of people we are going to be.

They say this a lot, “tell me who your friends are and I will tell you who you are.” It’s definitely important to associate your self with someone who does good and who only want what is best for you. Sometimes we need to consider who to trust and who to keep a close watch with because other than our families, they had the most influence in our whole being.

Today’s list is all about the friends I have made from when I was little up until I became a person who I always wanted to be.


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I can only remember a small glimpse of what my kindergarten looked like. I am always been the shy type and I only made friends with my seatmates. I never talked to anyone except with the kids who sat beside me but I remember knowing all of them and only smiling to them when they smile at me first. I’m never been a fan of school anyway and I only went because my mom told me so.


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In elementary, I remember that we played all the time and that there have been a lot of goofs going around whenever classes are out. I basically made friends with everyone and some of them are still my friends up until today. I remembered being bullied for just a short amount of time (thank God!). I met my first crush when I was in third grade and there have been a lot of activities and school works but I survived those. I was definitely shy and I’m just glad I made a lot of friends who helped me through those years.


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High school definitely was full of drama and awkward phases. I was active in high school so I definitely went to a lot of camps and schools out of town. I was friends with a lot of students because I was involved in school government and also because my mom is a teacher there. I think students had that respect for me because I had that leverage from them. Also, I had my first boyfriend in high school. I became more aware of my identity and I made a lot of lifelong friends. It was that easy for me because I had the support from those people who became family for four years. It was all laughs and games and I can never imagine my life without them.


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College is all about survival. Everything I went through is for surviving and I made friends with such a cool bunch throughout those difficult years. We needed each others’ support and we cared about each other. When you’ve been friends with the same familiar people, I realize that it’s harder making one when you’re older. And when you are preparing yourself for the bigger picture, it’s truly nice to have someone to rely to and to get some much needed support from, emotionally and mentally. The hardest part about maintaining my relationship with them though is planning quality time with them. We live really far from each other and we can’t see each other for months but it’s a good thing that we live in a modern world and my friends are just one chat away.


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Adulthood is far more different than making friends in school. Now that I’m a professional, I started making friends with professionals too by joining a local organization. I think I need that leverage and that kind of familiarity to be able to prepare my self for my chosen career. I associated myself with people who have more experience than me so that I could get myself around the workplace and the society all in all.

So far, everything worked fine for me. I already started preparing my social stamina so that I could build and forge more in the following years. I am beyond grateful for those steps I took and blessed to be able to rise up every time I trip. I am thankful for the friends I made along the way. They have been very helpful to me and I’m keeping them as long as I could. It’s been one hell of a ride with them and I couldn’t ask for more!

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5 Basic Rules a Friendship Needs

We’ve gone through a lot of ups and downs with our BFFs. We’ve had their backs since day one. We had shared a hell of a laugh and shed tons of tears with them. They are basically a part of our being and we can’t see ourselves going through life without them. We have seen them in their truest form but we love them still. If these are not what friendship is all about, I don’t know what is.

You might say that there are no rules when it comes to friendship. That true friendship doesn’t have to be this hard to maintain. That if we wanna be friends with certain people, we’ll just go with the flow and let life take you to who you’re meant to be with.

Well, I think that we have been applying these rules already. Anyway, they are the most basic rules that ever existed. And even if you’re aware of these or not, if you really love your bunch then you have been doing these your whole life!


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Rule #1: Only wanting what’s best for them. We’ve been entirely devoted to the things that make them happy. We’ve been dealing with their heavy sighs and sad hearts for a long time. We are their sunshine when things get a little gloomy. We are their rainbows after a heavy rain. We have embraced every joys they had and hugged it out when the going gets tough. We also owe everything to them too, for being there when we need them the most. We entirely love each other that we would do anything for each others happiness and well-being.


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Rule #2: Make the time. The busy life is inevitable. While we work our asses off to boost our career, we tend to forget to make time for our friends. While getting busy and focusing on work is good, meet-ups with them on the weekends are a must. We need to make time and spare some for our friends to keep us sane and to catch up on what’s the latest. We also need to boost our social well-being and being with our friends is the most gratifying thing we will ever need for our mind and soul.


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Rule #3: Support common and uncommon interests. Even when we are in a bunch, we are still different individuals with varied interests. We must learn to be supportive of the things that make our friends happy. We must be there to give our insights about their passions and to guide them on the things that will reach their goals. We might be friends with them but we don’t have the right to stop them for wanting what they want. The only grand thing we can do for them is to pat their backs when they fall or clap to them when they succeed.


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Rule #4: Be partners in crime. What is a friendship without tons of fun? A boring one that is. Having some friends around is what silly dancing and out-of-town road trips are made of. We can’t be the person we are today without their perks and habits. We have already obtained some of their personalities, that is why it’s best to associate ourselves with people who only want what’s best for us too. Someone who our families trust and who will never break that trust.


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Rule #5: Point out friendship flaws and embrace them. Because all of us are diverse, we can’t help but have little fights sometimes. There are misunderstandings and disappointments that will surface but that is how friendship works. We can’t avoid it instead, we should embrace it and find ways to deal with it. Only by finding the very best solution will grant us an everlasting and stronger bond. We just need to be open-minded and let the possibilities come through.


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